Friday, November 16, 2012

End the Conflict: A Letter to President Barack Obama

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Dear Mr. President,

I imagine that you feared at some point that taking a stand on the Israel/Palestine conflict may have hurt your career as a politician, but, now that you have been re-elected, you are not bound be these constraints.  It is time to act!  The United States can no longer stand idly by and watch as these two nations tear each other apart and separate the world with them.  I am calling on you to act now in favor of human rights, in favor of ending conflict and in favor peace.


The house surrounded by the wall on three sides.
I do not often take a political stand, perhaps that is one of my faults, but in this case I have seen with my own eyes the atrocities and human rights violations that are going on in the West Bank.  I have seen how dry Bethlehem is compared to Jerusalem because Israel restricts the amount of water allowed in the West Bank.  I have seen the wall that surrounds a Palestinian home on three sides where Israel has built the wall on Palestinian land.  I know the families who are not allowed to visit Jerusalem because they are Palestinian and cannot get permits.  I have had to take shorten showers because I didn’t want to use up the water of my Palestinian hosts, which is rationed.  I have seen the spots where Israel cuts down trees in the name of “security” only because they can’t take over green spaces in Palestine.  I have seen as Palestinian friends lose their land as the wall is built through their property.  I have been through the checkpoints and seen the Palestinians questioned and harassed as they try and enter Israel.  I’ve visited the businesses, such as the Taybeh Brewing Company, that cannot export their products to make money due to sanctions from the Israeli government.  My sister lives in Bethlehem, and I have watched as she deals with water shortages and having her electricity shut off for no reason other than she lives in Palestine.  I saw all of this in only a short 4-week visit!

Why does America allow this to happen?  Just because we are “friends” of Israel?  We must be terrible friends then.  I know that my best friends would immediately tell me if I was doing what Israel is doing to the Palestinian people.  They would tell me to stop, they would show me the errors of my behavior, or they would stop being friends with me.  If we were truly their friends, we would call them out on their behavior, we would rebuke their violations and demand that they stop so that the peace process can move forward, or we would stop supporting them.

I question Israel’s reluctance to allow Palestine to become a nation.  Why does Israel insist on keeping them annexed to Israel, but refuses to give Palestinians the same rights that Israelis have?  They won’t let them go, force them to stay part of their country, but then discriminate, abuse and oppress them?  This does not make sense.  If Israel does not want to treat the Palestinians as equal citizens, then they should let them go.

Other countries around the world (Sweden, Norway, Spain, Greece, etc.) have acknowledged the human rights violations going on in this conflict, but have not been able to act, due to the blockade around Gaza.  Their ships with humanitarian aid for the people in Gaza have been stopped every time they attempt to help.  These countries also support a Palestinian state and believe they should be free to govern themselves.

I do not absolve the Palestinians from their part in this conflict, but it is much harder to be the oppressed than the oppressor.  There have been rockets fired on both sides, but it is time for it to stop, and we as Americans, and you as the President, have the ability to call out to our international partners and stop these injustices from happening.  This war has been fought for far to long, enough is enough.

The only way, in my opinion, to stop the oppression, is to support Palestine in their quest for statehood.  Allowing Palestine to become a country gives them the protection they need under international law, and gives them a voice in the UN and international community.  They deserve their voice as much as anyone else does.  Furthermore, just because you support a Palestinian state does not mean you do not support Israel, it means that you support both peoples being allowed to govern themselves and that you do not support the occupation of one country by another.

Writing on the wall: pleas from the Palestinian people for hope and peace.
While I have never met you (although I did shake your hand once), you seem like a wise and good man, so I ask you to set politics aside and think about what is best for the people of that land.  I believe in your message in hope, which is why I voted for you twice, now let's bring hope to the Palestinians too.  This war, even during more peaceful times, is affecting everyone, Israelis, Palestinians, Americans, Christians, Muslims and Jews.  I am calling on you to lead.  Lead the way to peace and put pressure on both sides to end the violence and to finally create a solution that will end the oppression and occupation.

Sincerely,
A. W.

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Sunday, November 11, 2012

Breastfeeding: A Reflection


Just a few days ago my daughter, Pumpkin, turned 18 months and this milestone got me to thinking about our breastfeeding journey as a mother and daughter; and to be honest, it has been a tough one.  I never thought that when I made the decision to breastfeed that it would be one of the toughest decisions of being a mother, even tougher than natural childbirth.  But, we have been going strong for over 18 months now and I am still happy that I made the decision to breastfeed at all costs.

Our breastfeeding relationship did not start out perfect.  Pumpkin had trouble latching and we had to use a nipple shield.  I didn’t think anything of using one because it helped her get food, but for those first 4 months she was constantly eating.  I felt as if she was never full, sometimes I would spend 4, 5, even 6 hours just sitting on the couch as she went back and forth, never filling up.  I tried to wean of the shield, but then she would refuse to eat so I eventually gave up and kept with the shield.  Around 4.5 months, Pumpkin decided that she had enough of the shield and pulled it off and reattached herself without any help from me!  After this there was an instant change: she started eating faster and talking longer breaks in between, which was a great relief to me, but as a very independent woman, I always struggled with her needing me so much.  I suppose that sounds like a terrible thing to admit, but I’m trying to be honest.  I have never been needed like that.  While it feels nice, it has been very taxing on me emotionally and physically.

But when I sit down and really think about what being able to breastfeed has meant to me, I realize that it is not about the 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6 am feedings, it isn’t about the constant need and attention. It is about making sure that my daughter has the best start I am able to give her.  It’s about the looks we share and the closeness we have as a result. And, it’s about following through with my decision to breastfeed until at least 2 years (as recommended by the World Health Organization) or when she self-weans.  Breastfeeding is just the second of many sacrifices that I will make over the years for my daughter’s well being.

The struggles we have are easy to focus on, but I also realize how fortunate I am to have the support I need to successfully breastfeed this long and that I was physically able to do it.  My husband, family, friends and health care professionals have all been there to make sure that I was successful in this endeavor.  Without them, I probably would have given up a long time ago.  So after 18 months (and still going), I guess all I can do is say “thank you” to my support system and hope that I can be part of that support system for others.